Friday, August 15, 2014
Being a single mom (or dad) is hard enough without the society pressure of perfection. Let's all take off the superhero capes and admit we're all doing the best we can. I understand doing what you can and not understanding the situation. What upsets me is gossip and judging and hating on others that decided things differently in their situations. Just because you don't think you'd do that same thing, doesn't mean you have the right to judge someone else for doing that. Working, raising kids, and being a young single mom is hard enough without all the pressures from others you trust to be on your side making the guilt worse. Every parent should understand there is a million ways to raise a kid, the goal is controlled perfection, its happy healthy kids and parents. Communities raise kids, and single moms still need a community to help them. No one does it all by themselves, let's stop trying to "Keep up with the Jones" and remember we're all humans with feelings and doing our best. It's how you react to a situation and others that defines your character, let's aim for getting back to the heart of communities and loving each other through trials. Unfortunately life doesn't work in ideals, family is often the worst at accepting your decisions, & they often hurt you the deepest because of this. My stance is if they cannot build you up, move on. Life is too short to be made to feel like a failure all the time. Surround yourself in the positive and keep moving forward. It'll get better. Don't be afraid to reach out for help. Doing it all on your own will overwhelm you. Anyone trying to do it all will snap and fall and get stressed out, remember taking care of yourself must come first and don't let anyone talk down to you about your decisions even if you screw up again and again, its not their story, not their path and who are they to judge another?
Overall lets remember we don't know what they went through. Let's be more accepting of each other.